Monday, August 12, 2013

On marrying young...

I was 22 when we got married.

Too young? Younger than average, certainly...slightly younger than my mom was when she married my dad. I finished my last two semesters of college as a married woman, which was definitely not the norm.

There has been a lot of conversation lately about marrying young- is it a good idea? Should people wait until they are older to get married? Are people who get married young more likely to end up divorced? 

Mandi at Messy Wife, Blessed Life has a series on marriage at her blog, and I'm delighted to be sharing my thoughts On Marrying Young there today. Here's a sneak peek:

At 22, when I still thought I knew almost everything, I thought I was ready. I thought I understood marriage. I expected it to be predictable, expected that when we said, “I do,” we would stroll through a pair of grand double doors and enter a story that was waiting for us to take our place as its central characters. I didn't realize that before we could occupy our story, we had to write it from the beginning. 

Why do weddings so often happen at the end of the book? Marriage is hardly the ending of anything…marriage isn't really anything at all when it starts. It's an idea we have, maybe, a set of expectations. A half-empty page on which we are about to start writing...

To find out what happened to those characters once the story really got started (and to get my perspective on getting married young), check out the rest of the post on Messy Wife, Blessed Life